Romance, sexuality and Cerebral Palsy

 

Romance and sexuality can be considered off limits or taboo subjects in some areas of society. The disability and Cerebral Palsy – Hōkai Nukurangi community is no exception.

Typically, the concerns are around physical and psychological safety and the perceived ability to communicate effectively.

However, perspectives on these notions are slowly changing and starting to acknowledge the fact that everyone with Cerebral Palsy – Hōkai Nukurangi grows up and experiences the full range of feelings and expectations around being an adult who may seek romance, relationships and social connections.

There is no doubt that living with Cerebral Palsy – Hōkai Nukurangi can and does provide complicated elements especially for the individual who is starting to navigate this space. Still, with the help of individuals and their families, conversations, resources, and narratives are beginning to take shape that use relationships, romance, and connection as just another aspect of life, irrespective of whether they have a disability.

Our friends at My CP Guide have a firm and steadfast commitment to providing resources and information on all areas of Cerebral Palsy – Hōkai Nukurangi across the lifespan including the topics that are viewed as “uncomfortable” for some. They have put together a series of videos talking about different elements of sex, gender, dating and healthy relationships and the ways in which adults with Cerebral Palsy – Hōkai Nukurangi navigate the space.

* At the bottom of this page is a short list of Aotearoa New Zealand-based organisations that provide information about sexual health and relationships, and support for anyone in an unsafe relationship. 

Video 1: Sex and Cerebral Palsy

An overview of issues relating to intimacy, physical challenges, and self-confidence.

Link: https://youtu.be/2ivPk7ITFIE

Video 2: Sex and Gender for people with Cerebral Palsy

Self-identity, sexual expression, and breaking down stereotypes to promote greater inclusion and understanding.

Link: https://youtu.be/AzV1JT78dVQ

Video 3: Dating with Cerebral Palsy

This video explores the world of dating, including building confidence, addressing misconceptions, and forming meaningful connections.

Link: https://youtu.be/Tev0IQyKElY

Video 4: Consent and Healthy Relationships for people with Cerebral Palsy

Understanding boundaries, communication, and respect in relationships is fundamental to safe and fulfilling connections.

Link: https://youtu.be/cu6aRNUuGEY

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Sexual health and relationships – information services in Aotearoa New Zealand

To Be Frank
Support, advice and education for people living with a disability. Making relationships, sexual identity and expression accessible to anyone.
www.tobefranknz.org.nz

Sexual Wellbeing Aotearoa
The experts in sexual and reproductive health, providing information, advice, and care online, in person, on a course or in a resource.
General information and advice: www.sexualwellbeing.org.nz/advice
Resources for parents and whānau: www.sexualwellbeing.org.nz/learn/resources

Support services in Aotearoa New Zealand

Are You OK?
Are You OK offers information and tools to understand unsafe relationships, access support and find the right services for you or someone in need. 
www.areyouok.org.nz

VisAble
VisAble work to strengthen national capabilities across agencies to prevent and respond to violence, abuse and neglect affecting disabled people and their whānau.  You can contact VisAble for advice or to make a referral if you are concerned that a person is at risk.  www.visable.co.nz